Tuesday, September 7, 2010

Walking Pneumonia

I found out last week I have walking pneumonia after being sick prior to that for 2 weeks.  At least, I know what is wrong with me.  Seen doctor again today and he said I should start to feel better in 2 weeks.

Just didn't want you all to think I fell off the face of the earth or abanonded this site.

Thanks and good health to all
Love, Marissa

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Being Positive is what helps me the most.....

When you grow up around negavity as a child -- it seems normal.  The critical comments - you get used too.
Well, then you venture out and interact with the world and realize that is not the only way to live

Tuesday, June 22, 2010

DeltaMagazines.com - DO NOT BUY FROM WEB SITE!

DeltaMagazines.com is a scam website!  I purchased (or so I thought) two magazines and never received them.  I googled deltamagazines and found out the website is a scam site.  You think you are purchasing magazines but you are not - you are being scammed out of your money!
Here is a link to how I discovered the scam http://reviews.pricegrabber.com/delta-magazines/r/2524/.

Hope I save everybody the heart ache and most of all your money!

Monday, June 14, 2010

Working with Dad this summer

Garven is working with his Dad this summer.  Since Daren owns his own business - he is able to watch our son and we are able to save on the huge cost of daycare.  It's so nice NOT worrying about Garven during the day, just knowing he's with Daren is a relief. 

They enjoy all the things that boys enjoy...
  • Playing pranks on each other
  • Hanging signs on the back of each other's vehicles
  • You know all that boy stuff (LOL)
Side Note:  I'm still figuring out this blogging stuff.  When I started this blog it was intended to be my therapy in caring for my mom.  But since, I realize I need balance - or more accurately more positive things to focus on - Lord knows I'm so blessed.  Sometimes when I re-read a post I think that reader(s) will think I'm uncaring but I can't worry about that now right ;)
Have blessed day,

Friday, June 11, 2010

Guess Who is Promoted to 5th Grade and Earned All A's!

Dear Garven,
You are the kindest boy I know and I love how you care about EVERYONE!  Please don't lose that - it is a great character quality to possess.

Congratulations on getting all A's on your final report card - so extremely proud I'm bursting with JOY!
I love you and would go to the moon and back for you.  Love, Mom

Teacher notes from the year:
January:  I am very glad to have him in my classroom. He is a hard worker and picks up and applies concepts quickly.  Keep it up! 
Garven received a 99% = A on his A.A. assignment for this marking period!
April:
Garven is great to have and class and continues to work hard. Keep it up.
June:
Garven has been an absolute joy to have in class this year! He is a very hard worker and is the most respectful student a teacher could ask for.Reading - A

GRADES:

Writing - A-
Math - A
Science - A
Social Studies - A

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

James Kissane - Can't Keep My Mouth Shut Anymore About Him

For years this man has been like a leech embedded in my soul and recently I've learned to pull that leech out and stomp on it.

For years he has manipulated my mother and it baffles me how she cannot see it.
He has stolen so many things/items from her over the years - I could literally write a book.  As long as I can remember he has been a thief...stealing collectables, laundry soap, guns, you name it - he has it.

I was really ticked off to hear that he has struck again....he stole 2 bottles of laundry soap from moms.  First he says that he didn't take it - must be someone else!  Or he will say Brooke is using

She's playing you for fool....why Mary Lou?

I just realized how deficient I am in many ways. We learn from our parents, the people responsible/entrusted for shaping the person you become. They shape how you feel about yourself, how you react to any given situation.


I do feel though that seeing that the way I was raised was a means-to-an-end. What do I mean by that? My parents were deficient, void, and immature – they too did not have emotionally responsible parents. Family emotions really go on cycles, passed down to the next generation.


Mom in particular was never ‘present’ as I was growing up – she found ways to numb herself and be oblivious to the most important job she had. Being a mom. Not being ‘present’ is cowardly to me and almost unforgivable.


She never had the tools to fight for herself, to care for us or even emphasize with anyone, let alone a child.


She was always very unapproachable and would be the last person to confide in. She was very critical and often would betray your trust, sharing it with other members; almost laughing at your pain. She’d use it against you, betray you in a heart beat. It was almost like she would thrive off your pain.


She’s the most negative person I’ve ever encountered in my life. She thrives on negativity.


I’ve always tried to give her the benefit of the doubt but sometimes when you have to become the parent, when you are a child, it can be very demoralizing. You tell yourself it’s OK that your mom was never ‘present’ that you are capable of taking care of yourself and tell yourself it’s not your responsibility to fix it.


Currently, it’s difficult to walk in her house/world on a daily basis, it’s depressing, demeaning – it’s like walking into a web of lies.


She lies to cover lies.
She limits herself.


It feels horrible to tell this truth but yet freeing.


But I do realize I cannot keep enabling this behavior.


It’s hard growing up listening to her talk horrible about your siblings, but you realize that this again is her web of lies – she wants us to be miserable and lonely – just like she is.


If I can see how she is, I’m guessing the rest of the family knows how she is too. They have to see and know she is lying to them, don’t they?


For years, the two people she’s talked the most horrible about is Dad and Bernie. She tries to manipulate how a person feels about others. Does she think I’m stupid? Doesn’t she know that I know she’s lying to me, does she even care?


She’s always been down right dirty when it comes to Becky. I’ve always wondered how a parent could treat/talk about their child like that.


I’ve had to tell mom recently that I do not want to hear her talk about siblings bad. I will not accept it as a topic anymore!


She always plays the victim when you call her on anything. She lies to cover the lies. She always blames someone else. Oh My Gosh --- I just realized it sounds like Jim. I guess he learned from the best.